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First Date Questions: Four Ways to Tell if He’s Commitment Material

First Date Questions: Four Ways to Tell if He’s Commitment Material
Are you tired of men who seem to want something long-term with you only to disappear? Guys who say one thing but do another. Those that run for the hills when things start to deepen. If only there was a way to work the first date questions to tell if someone is commitment-oriented or the “marrying-kind.”
Guess what? There is!
Four Questions You can ask on a first date to Know if He’s Marriage Material
First, ask him to tell you something about his childhood, such as “What’s one of your favorite childhood memories?” This opens the door to give you more information and ask a follow-up question about his upbringing, such as “Oh, what are your parents like?” Someone who is open (which you want!) will usually share details. Alternatively, you can tell him something about your parents and childhood. Which then opens the door for you to ask about his. As he responds, you should be able to sense whether he has any bitterness. Then, let him tell you about his family. You might say something like, “So where did you grow up?” After he answers, you might say, “Oh do your parents still live there?” Again, just bringing up the topic usually opens the door to delve deeper without being intense or sounding like an interviewer! Ask him if he has a spiritual side. Or a religious side. This will surface pretty quickly what is happening on that end. Why These Four First Date Questions? Over the past few years, researchers have looked closely at the types of men who are more interested in a long-term relationship and if, age appropriate, to have children. They’ve been able to distinguish those that are marriage material and those who are likely to be commitment-phobes or players. And guess what? There are telltale signs that you can use to guide you on the first date.
Rutgers University and the National Marriage Project conducted a national study that showed that married men were more likely than single men to have grown up with both biological parents. Almost half of married men reported going to religious services several times a month while less than a quarter of the unmarried men did.
When researchers sorted out the single men who were marriage material they found similarities among them. Men who said they came from traditional backgrounds and intact families and those who regularly attended religious services were the best prospects. These men agreed with the following statement: “You’d be ready to marry tomorrow if the right person came along.” A Gallup poll also showed that the vast majority of these men are seeking a “soulmate.” They are actively looking for someone who will fulfill their emotional, sexual and spiritual desires. And they also want a partner who will also share bread-winning responsibility.
Who Are Not Marriage or Commitment Material? According to the research, the non- marrying kind, however, were more likely to:
Distrust women Agree with the statement that there are so many bad marriages today it makes one questions the value of marriage. Believe that singles have better sex lives. Worry more about divorce. So how do you get down to the nitty-gritty with your first date questions? Without sounding like you’re intensely interviewing a guy to be your potential husband? How to Gauge Answers to the First Date Questions to Know if He is Marriage Material Now, of course, if someone didn’t grow up with both parents or doesn’t have a religious or spiritual background, this doesn’t mean he isn’t the One and isn’t capable of making a life-long commitment. This is a just way to gauge how ready he is for commitment on the FIRST date.
Pay attention to the other nuances of how he answers the first date questions. Is he bitter about relationships, clearly angry about his childhood, not over a divorce. Does he have a negative view of life and have an “every man for himself” vibe? These are all red flags. Move on. You’ll save yourself a lot of time, frust..

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First Date Questions: Four Ways to Tell if He’s Commitment Material

First Date Questions: Four Ways to Tell if He’s Commitment Material

First Date Questions: Four Ways to Tell if He’s Commitment Material
Are you tired of men who seem to want something long-term with you only to disappear? Guys who say one thing but do another. Those that run for the hills when things start to deepen. If only there was a way to work the first date questions to tell if someone is commitment-oriented or the “marrying-kind.”
Guess what? There is!
Four Questions You can ask on a first date to Know if He’s Marriage Material
First, ask him to tell you something about his childhood, such as “What’s one of your favorite childhood memories?” This opens the door to give you more information and ask a follow-up question about his upbringing, such as “Oh, what are your parents like?” Someone who is open (which you want!) will usually share details. Alternatively, you can tell him something about your parents and childhood. Which then opens the door for you to ask about his. As he responds, you should be able to sense whether he has any bitterness. Then, let him tell you about his family. You might say something like, “So where did you grow up?” After he answers, you might say, “Oh do your parents still live there?” Again, just bringing up the topic usually opens the door to delve deeper without being intense or sounding like an interviewer! Ask him if he has a spiritual side. Or a religious side. This will surface pretty quickly what is happening on that end. Why These Four First Date Questions? Over the past few years, researchers have looked closely at the types of men who are more interested in a long-term relationship and if, age appropriate, to have children. They’ve been able to distinguish those that are marriage material and those who are likely to be commitment-phobes or players. And guess what? There are telltale signs that you can use to guide you on the first date.
Rutgers University and the National Marriage Project conducted a national study that showed that married men were more likely than single men to have grown up with both biological parents. Almost half of married men reported going to religious services several times a month while less than a quarter of the unmarried men did.
When researchers sorted out the single men who were marriage material they found similarities among them. Men who said they came from traditional backgrounds and intact families and those who regularly attended religious services were the best prospects. These men agreed with the following statement: “You’d be ready to marry tomorrow if the right person came along.” A Gallup poll also showed that the vast majority of these men are seeking a “soulmate.” They are actively looking for someone who will fulfill their emotional, sexual and spiritual desires. And they also want a partner who will also share bread-winning responsibility.
Who Are Not Marriage or Commitment Material? According to the research, the non- marrying kind, however, were more likely to:
Distrust women Agree with the statement that there are so many bad marriages today it makes one questions the value of marriage. Believe that singles have better sex lives. Worry more about divorce. So how do you get down to the nitty-gritty with your first date questions? Without sounding like you’re intensely interviewing a guy to be your potential husband? How to Gauge Answers to the First Date Questions to Know if He is Marriage Material Now, of course, if someone didn’t grow up with both parents or doesn’t have a religious or spiritual background, this doesn’t mean he isn’t the One and isn’t capable of making a life-long commitment. This is a just way to gauge how ready he is for commitment on the FIRST date.
Pay attention to the other nuances of how he answers the first date questions. Is he bitter about relationships, clearly angry about his childhood, not over a divorce. Does he have a negative view of life and have an “every man for himself” vibe? These are all red flags. Move on. You’ll save yourself a lot of time, frust..

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Your Fear of Abandonment: Three Ways You Can Heal

Your Fear of Abandonment: Three Ways You Can Heal
Do you ever feel like your real self is somehow less than or unlovable? Like you have to be perfect or you’ll be rejected? Do you sometimes panic when you don’t receive a quick response to a text, email or voicemail? What about not speaking your truth in relationships because you think it might drive your partner away? Do you tend to settle for crumbs? These reactions could mean that a fear of abandonment is wreaking havoc on your life.
Abandonment is a primal fear that often stems from childhood. If you experienced parenting that were cold, judgmental or distant, you may have unconsciously created a sense of self as invisible, worthless, unlovable or not belonging. This fear can also develop further, later in life after a devastating loss or break up.
Fear of Abandonment in Intimate Relationships Dating and intimate relationships tend to resurface the disappointments of past relationships and even our childhood wounds. It is like setting the replay button where you deal with the same hurtful scenes, the abandoning father, the judgmental mother, the first love who dumped you, the ex who took everything in a nasty divorce. It is from all these painful experiences in love that we come to form mistrust and abandonment fears. The deeply held belief that results from these experiences are: I am not someone who can be chosen or loved in a consistent deep way.
You know you have this belief pattern when the deepest need you can easily recognize is wanting to be claimed and to receive unconditional love and commitment, yet your pattern of behavior is to hide out, accept relationships that give you very little, or even push caring people away. This is abandonment fear in action in your life. You feel like you need to protect yourself or settle for less, because what’s looming ahead is loss of love.
Sound familiar? OK, but no beating yourself up for having this pattern! It was a natural reaction to your childhood and adult love experiences. Plus, we ALL have primal fears when it comes to relationships. It’s just that some of us have stronger issues in this arena.
Three Ways to Heal Your Fear of Abandonment So here’s great news. I’m going to show you three powerful ways to heal and transcend your fear of abandonment and create healthy relationships!
Healing Your Fear of Abandonment: Turn Loving Attention on Yourself It all starts with your relationship with the single most important person in your life. That would be YOU. Step one is to turn loving attention on yourself, which is called self-soothing. This attention turn-around disengages your focus from being firmly centered on others and how they—are, did, or will—abandon you! Here is a simple way to do this (even if you are feeling down on yourself right now!):
Get a photo of yourself or just look at your Facebook profile photo. Now imagine you have this unique beloved daughter or son (not your actual child, if you have one.) Just imagine you have a beautiful child that you adore…. you love her or him soooo much! You just know their perfection. Their real beauty inside and out, their innocence, their gifted nature…. Now look at your photo of yourself, imagining that you are your own precious adult child, notice how much you love this child as you study their beautiful face , feel the essence of their loving soul, know their innocence and the caring of their big heart. Appreciate this adult child who is you—fully. Now more…. appreciate this adult child who is you even more. Feel love towards this adult child who is you, a totally unique, one-of-a-kind being, feel even more appreciation and love! So this is one powerful way you can be like a loving parent to yourself. Psychologists call it self-soothing. In fact, just doing the exercise will help you—you do not have to believe it will!
Healing Your Fear of Abandonment: Noticing & Questioning the Negative Self-Talk Step two is noticing and questioning negative self-talk th..

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Your Fear of Abandonment: Three Ways You Can Heal

Your Fear of Abandonment: Three Ways You Can Heal

Your Fear of Abandonment: Three Ways You Can Heal
Do you ever feel like your real self is somehow less than or unlovable? Like you have to be perfect or you’ll be rejected? Do you sometimes panic when you don’t receive a quick response to a text, email or voicemail? What about not speaking your truth in relationships because you think it might drive your partner away? Do you tend to settle for crumbs? These reactions could mean that a fear of abandonment is wreaking havoc on your life.
Abandonment is a primal fear that often stems from childhood. If you experienced parenting that were cold, judgmental or distant, you may have unconsciously created a sense of self as invisible, worthless, unlovable or not belonging. This fear can also develop further, later in life after a devastating loss or break up.
Fear of Abandonment in Intimate Relationships Dating and intimate relationships tend to resurface the disappointments of past relationships and even our childhood wounds. It is like setting the replay button where you deal with the same hurtful scenes, the abandoning father, the judgmental mother, the first love who dumped you, the ex who took everything in a nasty divorce. It is from all these painful experiences in love that we come to form mistrust and abandonment fears. The deeply held belief that results from these experiences are: I am not someone who can be chosen or loved in a consistent deep way.
You know you have this belief pattern when the deepest need you can easily recognize is wanting to be claimed and to receive unconditional love and commitment, yet your pattern of behavior is to hide out, accept relationships that give you very little, or even push caring people away. This is abandonment fear in action in your life. You feel like you need to protect yourself or settle for less, because what’s looming ahead is loss of love.
Sound familiar? OK, but no beating yourself up for having this pattern! It was a natural reaction to your childhood and adult love experiences. Plus, we ALL have primal fears when it comes to relationships. It’s just that some of us have stronger issues in this arena.
Three Ways to Heal Your Fear of Abandonment So here’s great news. I’m going to show you three powerful ways to heal and transcend your fear of abandonment and create healthy relationships!
Healing Your Fear of Abandonment: Turn Loving Attention on Yourself It all starts with your relationship with the single most important person in your life. That would be YOU. Step one is to turn loving attention on yourself, which is called self-soothing. This attention turn-around disengages your focus from being firmly centered on others and how they—are, did, or will—abandon you! Here is a simple way to do this (even if you are feeling down on yourself right now!):
Get a photo of yourself or just look at your Facebook profile photo. Now imagine you have this unique beloved daughter or son (not your actual child, if you have one.) Just imagine you have a beautiful child that you adore…. you love her or him soooo much! You just know their perfection. Their real beauty inside and out, their innocence, their gifted nature…. Now look at your photo of yourself, imagining that you are your own precious adult child, notice how much you love this child as you study their beautiful face , feel the essence of their loving soul, know their innocence and the caring of their big heart. Appreciate this adult child who is you—fully. Now more…. appreciate this adult child who is you even more. Feel love towards this adult child who is you, a totally unique, one-of-a-kind being, feel even more appreciation and love! So this is one powerful way you can be like a loving parent to yourself. Psychologists call it self-soothing. In fact, just doing the exercise will help you—you do not have to believe it will!
Healing Your Fear of Abandonment: Noticing & Questioning the Negative Self-Talk Step two is noticing and questioning negative self-talk th..

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Three Ways of Sabotaging Relationships & Causing Men to Pull Away

Three Ways of Sabotaging Relationships & Causing Men to Pull Away
Are you Sabotaging Your Relationships? Maybe you’ve met a few great men, but you suddenly get that gut feeling. He’s going to hurt me. And even though you insist, This guy’s different. And you vow, No, I’m going to ensure this relationship works out. Sadly, the bitter ending happens. And there you go back to the tissue box and Ben & Jerry’s. You’ve just played out a dating scenario that creates exactly the loss you’ve feared. In other words, you’re sabotaging relationships.
As Edna St. Vincent Millay said, “It’s not true that life is one damn thing after another—it’s one damn thing over and over.” She may just as well have been describing what I call the Deadly Dating Patterns. These are unconscious ways we have of self-sabotaging relationships. But the great news is that even if you have a long-term deadly dating pattern, just recognizing it can be very helpful in freeing you to go beyond it. Here are three common sabotaging relationship patterns that push men away (adapted from my book, Love in 90 Days).
And don’t forget to check out the video on self-sabotaging relationships at the end of this post.
Sabotaging Relationships–Pattern #1 THE FLAME-OUT This is one of the most common and deadliest of the self-sabotaging relationship patterns. You meet a guy, there’s lots of sparks, and he says all the right things! You think to yourself, He’s different; he’s the One. You are higher than a 747. You jump into the sack and have urgent, mind-blowing, maybe even unprotected sex. He says he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. You talk for hours and he understands you in a way that no one else does. Some of the texts he sends you are amazing—short love poems (about you) that zap your heart. You spend a glorious weekend together. Then kaput. Finito. Nada. You sit there alone, making excuses for why his text, e-mail, or call never comes.
Ginger, a 28-year-old artist, describes her Sabotaging Relationship Pattern Justin seemed to be almost the opposite of my ex. Very talkative, very expressive and openly sensitive. I got a feeling he might be a little like my brother-in-law, John—just a real good guy. We spent five hours on the phone together the first time we talked. He said he can’t stop thinking about me, that he’d never met a woman like me.
Over the next few weeks Justin started crying about how much he “felt for” Ginger. How amazing he felt when he was with her. Just when Ginger started daydreaming about a simple sunset wedding at their favorite beach, Justin disappeared into the dating Nether-worlds, never to be heard from again.
Sabotaging Relationships–Pattern #2 I’LL MAKE YOU LOVE ME You’re turned on by the challenge of changing and winning over a guy who has “potential.” When you meet a guy you like, you immediately work overtime to get him: hopping right into bed, making exotic dinners, even buying him tickets to the playoffs. When you’re with him, you’re not yourself with him. In fact, you’re busy trying to be the image of what you think he wants in a woman. You’re his love slave, chef, therapist, and savior. But one thing you are not being is authentic, a real person, with real needs and desires. Those you keep hidden. You may feel that you are not that lovable, or that if you started asking for things, you’d be a drain.
All you want, consciously at least, is for him to stay and never leave you. What you get is a phone that never buzzes to announce a text from him. Ironically, your over-giving may even propel him into the arms of the nearest girly-girl who needs him to take care of her! When you finally get the bad news through the grapevine, you’re completely baffled at how stupid men can be.
Sheila, a thirty-three-year-old nurse, put it this way: I’ve only had a few real long-lasting relationships. The worst part is that in each one I felt like I lost myself, my friends, my whole identity. I would come home and just do what he was d..

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Three Ways of Sabotaging Relationships & Causing Men to Pull Away

Three Ways of Sabotaging Relationships & Causing Men to Pull Away

Three Ways of Sabotaging Relationships & Causing Men to Pull Away
Are you Sabotaging Your Relationships? Maybe you’ve met a few great men, but you suddenly get that gut feeling. He’s going to hurt me. And even though you insist, This guy’s different. And you vow, No, I’m going to ensure this relationship works out. Sadly, the bitter ending happens. And there you go back to the tissue box and Ben & Jerry’s. You’ve just played out a dating scenario that creates exactly the loss you’ve feared. In other words, you’re sabotaging relationships.
As Edna St. Vincent Millay said, “It’s not true that life is one damn thing after another—it’s one damn thing over and over.” She may just as well have been describing what I call the Deadly Dating Patterns. These are unconscious ways we have of self-sabotaging relationships. But the great news is that even if you have a long-term deadly dating pattern, just recognizing it can be very helpful in freeing you to go beyond it. Here are three common sabotaging relationship patterns that push men away (adapted from my book, Love in 90 Days).
And don’t forget to check out the video on self-sabotaging relationships at the end of this post.
Sabotaging Relationships–Pattern #1 THE FLAME-OUT This is one of the most common and deadliest of the self-sabotaging relationship patterns. You meet a guy, there’s lots of sparks, and he says all the right things! You think to yourself, He’s different; he’s the One. You are higher than a 747. You jump into the sack and have urgent, mind-blowing, maybe even unprotected sex. He says he wants to spend the rest of his life with you. You talk for hours and he understands you in a way that no one else does. Some of the texts he sends you are amazing—short love poems (about you) that zap your heart. You spend a glorious weekend together. Then kaput. Finito. Nada. You sit there alone, making excuses for why his text, e-mail, or call never comes.
Ginger, a 28-year-old artist, describes her Sabotaging Relationship Pattern Justin seemed to be almost the opposite of my ex. Very talkative, very expressive and openly sensitive. I got a feeling he might be a little like my brother-in-law, John—just a real good guy. We spent five hours on the phone together the first time we talked. He said he can’t stop thinking about me, that he’d never met a woman like me.
Over the next few weeks Justin started crying about how much he “felt for” Ginger. How amazing he felt when he was with her. Just when Ginger started daydreaming about a simple sunset wedding at their favorite beach, Justin disappeared into the dating Nether-worlds, never to be heard from again.
Sabotaging Relationships–Pattern #2 I’LL MAKE YOU LOVE ME You’re turned on by the challenge of changing and winning over a guy who has “potential.” When you meet a guy you like, you immediately work overtime to get him: hopping right into bed, making exotic dinners, even buying him tickets to the playoffs. When you’re with him, you’re not yourself with him. In fact, you’re busy trying to be the image of what you think he wants in a woman. You’re his love slave, chef, therapist, and savior. But one thing you are not being is authentic, a real person, with real needs and desires. Those you keep hidden. You may feel that you are not that lovable, or that if you started asking for things, you’d be a drain.
All you want, consciously at least, is for him to stay and never leave you. What you get is a phone that never buzzes to announce a text from him. Ironically, your over-giving may even propel him into the arms of the nearest girly-girl who needs him to take care of her! When you finally get the bad news through the grapevine, you’re completely baffled at how stupid men can be.
Sheila, a thirty-three-year-old nurse, put it this way: I’ve only had a few real long-lasting relationships. The worst part is that in each one I felt like I lost myself, my friends, my whole identity. I would come home and just do what he was d..

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How to Find Your Soulmate: 10 Creative Actions

How to Find Your Soulmate: 10 Creative Actions

Finding the One: The Dating Program of Three
Finding the One If you want to know the best way to approach finding the one, listen to the wise words of the Bard. “Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.” In other words, Moderation is key. It keeps you from moving too quickly or too slowly when you’re getting to know new men and what they bring to your table. In my experience as a Love Mentor, the most powerful way to achieve moderation is by using the Dating Program of Three. And therefore, it’s the best way to find the One.
The Program of Three is exactly the opposite of the urban legend “three-date rule,” which dictates that you must decide by the third date if a guy is the potentially the One and have sex. Or risk losing him forever. On this dating program, you avoid that pressured decision and its aftermath. The deadly-dating pattern called the Flame Out that usually kills the relationship. Instead you date three men at the same time without having sex with any of them. By not seeing any one man too often, you find the men who are really into you. And who will stay the course. Plus, you break out of your prison of deadly dating patterns and maneuver more skillfully in the dating world. By following this program, you build your self-esteem and find men that are much more fulfilling.
I Know this Program Sounds Impossible The idea of finding the One by juggling, three guys may sound challenging if not downright impossible! Let me reassure you: it has worked for thousands of women. And it won’t be difficult for you once you begin using all the tools you’ll learn here.
RELATED POST: WHERE TO MEET MEN OFF-LINE
There are four sound biological & psychological reasons why the Dating Program of Three works! The Dating Program of Three helps you avoid the number one mistake that single women make. Like the addictive moth-to-a-flame, they get over-involved with some new guy who is supposedly the “One.” I call it the Flame-Out Deadly Dating Pattern. As Helen Fisher, the renowned anthropologist, describes in her fascinating book, Why We Love, romantic love is a real addiction. It is like shooting up cocaine or heroin, which means reason often goes out the window. When we “fall in love” our brains make large quantities of dopamine and norepinephrine, which also happens when you take speed! These brain chemicals create the excited, exhilarated and focused state that allows us to have eight-hour dates and remember every detail about what our new hottie did and said. These speed-like chemicals also can drive up our levels of testosterone, which increases sexual desire.
In Finding the One Avoid This Second Mistake Second, when we fall in love, serotonin levels fall and resemble the levels found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorders. So we tend to ruminate, fantasize and obsess about our new (drug-like) boyfriends. The new love is in our thoughts all day and in our dreams at night. Your brain says, focus on him, focus on him, focus on him.
Once this process takes you over, you become like a craving coke addict. You lose touch with reality, seeing only the positives. You lose self-control. Instead you are locked on the target, the fix—hot-wired and ready to do outrageous things, sometimes self-destructive things, whatever it takes to be with him. One look, one sweet word is all it takes. Even if you don’t really know him. Even if it is not in your best interests. And as you continue to spend more time together the addiction intensifies.
Love Addiction In your quest for finding the One, if you move too quickly into the pulsing rush of love, you put yourself at risk. If this man rejects you or disappears, you will go through an agonizing withdrawal. Then you will suffer from sleeplessness, crying jags, over- or under eating, obsessive and upsetting thoughts. all mess with your brain chemistry even further.
The Dating Program of Three safeguards you against all these dangers of love addiction. On this program you will see ..

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How to Find Your Soulmate: 10 Creative Actions

Finding the One: The Dating Program of Three
Finding the One If you want to know the best way to approach finding the one, listen to the wise words of the Bard. “Too swift arrives as tardy as too slow.” In other words, Moderation is key. It keeps you from moving too quickly or too slowly when you’re getting to know new men and what they bring to your table. In my experience as a Love Mentor, the most powerful way to achieve moderation is by using the Dating Program of Three. And therefore, it’s the best way to find the One.
The Program of Three is exactly the opposite of the urban legend “three-date rule,” which dictates that you must decide by the third date if a guy is the potentially the One and have sex. Or risk losing him forever. On this dating program, you avoid that pressured decision and its aftermath. The deadly-dating pattern called the Flame Out that usually kills the relationship. Instead you date three men at the same time without having sex with any of them. By not seeing any one man too often, you find the men who are really into you. And who will stay the course. Plus, you break out of your prison of deadly dating patterns and maneuver more skillfully in the dating world. By following this program, you build your self-esteem and find men that are much more fulfilling.
I Know this Program Sounds Impossible The idea of finding the One by juggling, three guys may sound challenging if not downright impossible! Let me reassure you: it has worked for thousands of women. And it won’t be difficult for you once you begin using all the tools you’ll learn here.
RELATED POST: WHERE TO MEET MEN OFF-LINE
There are four sound biological & psychological reasons why the Dating Program of Three works! The Dating Program of Three helps you avoid the number one mistake that single women make. Like the addictive moth-to-a-flame, they get over-involved with some new guy who is supposedly the “One.” I call it the Flame-Out Deadly Dating Pattern. As Helen Fisher, the renowned anthropologist, describes in her fascinating book, Why We Love, romantic love is a real addiction. It is like shooting up cocaine or heroin, which means reason often goes out the window. When we “fall in love” our brains make large quantities of dopamine and norepinephrine, which also happens when you take speed! These brain chemicals create the excited, exhilarated and focused state that allows us to have eight-hour dates and remember every detail about what our new hottie did and said. These speed-like chemicals also can drive up our levels of testosterone, which increases sexual desire.
In Finding the One Avoid This Second Mistake Second, when we fall in love, serotonin levels fall and resemble the levels found in people with obsessive-compulsive disorders. So we tend to ruminate, fantasize and obsess about our new (drug-like) boyfriends. The new love is in our thoughts all day and in our dreams at night. Your brain says, focus on him, focus on him, focus on him.
Once this process takes you over, you become like a craving coke addict. You lose touch with reality, seeing only the positives. You lose self-control. Instead you are locked on the target, the fix—hot-wired and ready to do outrageous things, sometimes self-destructive things, whatever it takes to be with him. One look, one sweet word is all it takes. Even if you don’t really know him. Even if it is not in your best interests. And as you continue to spend more time together the addiction intensifies.
Love Addiction In your quest for finding the One, if you move too quickly into the pulsing rush of love, you put yourself at risk. If this man rejects you or disappears, you will go through an agonizing withdrawal. Then you will suffer from sleeplessness, crying jags, over- or under eating, obsessive and upsetting thoughts. all mess with your brain chemistry even further.
The Dating Program of Three safeguards you against all these dangers of love addiction. On this program you will see ..

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