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How to Overcome Loneliness Once and For All

How to Overcome Loneliness Once and For All

How to Overcome Loneliness Once and For All
Can we really learn how to overcome loneliness once and for all?
Each month 135,000 people search the term ‘loneliness’ on Google. Many of them are looking for how connect and overcome their isolation. Loneliness is even harder to deal with if you have experienced what I call a Nobody’s Girl upbringing. There are many different problematic scenarios in your childhood that could have led you to feel like a Nobody’s Girl. I myself had several of them in my background. I was an emotionally abandoned unwanted child. Yet, I overcame those childhood wounds and married my best friend and soul mate. You can too.
In this third blog on how to overcome loneliness we are going to delve deeply into how to end the heartache of the Nobody’s Girl syndrome! We will look at how you can change your basic model of relating intimately by having a corrective and healing relationship that gives you what you never got growing up. Later in this post, we’ll meet Jo, a very successful research chemist, who overcame her loneliness and childhood wounds through mentoring.
Let’s call this specific type of mentoring, as Needs-Based Mentoring. It’s designed to fill your unmet needs from childhood and correct your negative self-sabotaging beliefs. And these kinds of beliefs have led to the creation of loneliness and hopelessness-generating self-talk.
RELATED POST: LONELY AND SINGLE
How to Overcome Loneliness: Secret Beliefs that Amplify Loneliness Nobody wants me. I’m too much for anyone to handle You can only rely on yourself I’m damaged goods Everyone leaves me I’ll always be alone I don’t really need or want love in my life I always screw up relationships Yes, I know a number of these negative beliefs seem all too familiar to you. The critical thing to know about them is that they are just thoughts. Just thoughts based on how you were treated growing up. And you can change them. Close your eyes and take that in—you can change these beliefs!
Then, make a note of which ones seem to resonate with you the most. These are the ones that you can discuss with a Needs-Based Mentor, who will then help you to create affirmations that counter them and fill you with connection and hope for the future. So, for example, I deserve to be ignored or ghosted, can be countered with an affirmation like, I deserve to be attended to and chosen.
How to Overcome Loneliness: Where Did My Self-Sabotaging Beliefs Come From? These loneliness-generating beliefs grow out of common background stories that you may have experienced growing up. They led to you knowing loneliness from an early age. Do any of these stories sound like your background?
Divorce war. Your needs got lost in the heat of your parents’ bitter divorce. An unwanted pregnancy. You were an accident or a late life surprise. Not the right gender. Your parents desperately wanted a boy. Young parents. Your parents had you when they were young, self-absorbed or still partying. Shuffled off. You were raised by sitters or daycare workers who were too burdened to take delight in you. Favorite child wins all. Your sibling is the golden child or is sickly/needy and took all of your parents’ time and attention. Addict parents. Your parents were workaholics or addicted to drugs or alcohol. Illness or death. One or both parents were mentally/physically ill or died. The most important themes include being unplanned, unwanted, and/or uncared for. The lingering effect is then you’re relating to people you tend to feel left out, ignored, invisible or like a second class citizen. In a social situation you feel like you can’t win out over other women. They have the “right stuff’ and you don’t. You don’t have a strong self-loving female identity.
I myself was the wrong gender—a fifth daughter born to a Sicilian family that only wanted a boy. My father said, “Oh, another girl, I don’t want to go to the hospital!” You get the idea. And so I grew up as a Nobody’s Girl. With lots of s..

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How to Overcome Loneliness Once and For All

How to Overcome Loneliness Once and For All
Can we learn how to overcome loneliness once and for all?
Loneliness is even harder to deal with if you have experienced what I call a Nobody’s Girl upbringing. There are many different problematic scenarios in your childhood that could have led you to feel like a Nobody’s Girl. I myself had several of them in my background. I was an emotionally abandoned unwanted child. Yet, I overcame those childhood wounds and married my best friend and soul mate. You can too.
In this third blog on how to overcome loneliness we are going to delve deeply into how to end the heartache of the Nobody’s Girl syndrome! We will look at how you can change your basic model of relating intimately by having a corrective and healing relationship that gives you what you never got growing up. Later in this post, we’ll meet Jo, a very successful research chemist, who overcame her loneliness and childhood wounds through mentoring.
Let’s call this specific type of mentoring, as Needs-Based Mentoring. It’s designed to fill your unmet needs from childhood and correct your negative self-sabotaging beliefs. And these kinds of beliefs have led to the creation of loneliness and hopelessness-generating self-talk.
RELATED POST: LONELY AND SINGLE
How to Overcome Loneliness: Secret Beliefs that Amplify Loneliness Nobody wants me. I’m too much for anyone to handle You can only rely on yourself I’m damaged goods Everyone leaves me I’ll always be alone I don’t really need or want love in my life I always screw up relationships Yes, I know a number of these negative beliefs seem all too familiar to you. The critical thing to know about them is that they are just thoughts. Just thoughts based on how you were treated growing up. And you can change them. Close your eyes and take that in—you can change these beliefs!
Then, make a note of which ones seem to resonate with you the most. These are the ones that you can discuss with a Needs-Based Mentor, who will then help you to create affirmations that counter them and fill you with connection and hope for the future. So, for example, I deserve to be ignored or ghosted, can be countered with an affirmation like, I deserve to be attended to and chosen.
How to Overcome Loneliness: Where Did My Self-Sabotaging Beliefs Come From? These loneliness-generating beliefs grow out of common background stories that you may have experienced growing up. They led to you knowing loneliness from an early age. Do any of these stories sound like your background?
Divorce war. Your needs got lost in the heat of your parents’ bitter divorce. An unwanted pregnancy. You were an accident or a late life surprise. Not the right gender. Your parents desperately wanted a boy. Young parents. Your parents had you when they were young, self-absorbed or still partying. Shuffled off. You were raised by sitters or daycare workers who were too burdened to take delight in you. Favorite child wins all. Your sibling is the golden child or is sickly/needy and took all of your parents’ time and attention. Addict parents. Your parents were workaholics or addicted to drugs or alcohol. Illness or death. One or both parents were mentally/physically ill or died. The most important themes include being unplanned, unwanted, and/or uncared for. The lingering effect is then you’re relating to people you tend to feel left out, ignored, invisible or like a second class citizen. In a social situation you feel like you can’t win out over other women. They have the “right stuff’ and you don’t. You don’t have a strong self-loving female identity.
I myself was the wrong gender—a fifth daughter born to a Sicilian family that only wanted a boy. My father said, “Oh, another girl, I don’t want to go to the hospital!” You get the idea. And so I grew up as a Nobody’s Girl. With lots of self-sabotaging beliefs. But there was so much more to me, just waiting to blossom.
Just like there is so much more to you than you realize!
Ho..

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Overcoming Loneliness & The Nobody’s Girl Experience

Overcoming Loneliness & The Nobody’s Girl Experience
Loneliness is in a pandemic of its own right now.
Perhaps you are feeling it even more than other women, if you had a less-than-great childhood in which you were not exactly welcomed, appreciated and nurtured in a consistent way. Your problematic upbringing then leads to you to experience yourself as a Nobody’s Girl. And when you feel loneliness, you can deeply feel it at your core. This blog is Part II of a three-part series on understanding and overcoming the Nobody’s Girl challenges you face.
I myself am a recovered Nobody’s Girl, married to the love of my life. I’m going to share how my transformation from loneliness to love took place so you can do it too. Let’s first start with understanding the dynamics and how those insights can lead to change. Next, we’ll talk about how coaching and mentoring can lift you out of the darkness.
RELATED POST: LONELY AND SINGLE?
Overcoming Loneliness: Understanding How Nobody’s Girl Dynamics Play Out in Your Life Depending on personality, a Nobody’s Girl can run hot or cold. If you are an extroverted, fiery type, who is used to being very successful in her career, you will tend to more of the elaborate performance art dedicated to manufacturing love, like our friend, Joy in our previous blog. You work overtime to make a guy love you.
Or on the other hand, you may become wild, hostile, rebellious, even abusive to a man who falls into your orbit to ‘test’ him and push him away. You watch yourself helplessly while you push all his buttons and get him to say exactly the wrong thing, the heartbreaking thing that will end it all. Meanwhile it feels impossible to be authentic or real with the guy. You’re too much of a hell child for him to handle anyway. Often you simply dump him first, before he can do it to you.
If you tend to be more introverted or shy, you may hold back in a relationship by doing less, or being quiet, shy or unavailable. It may be hard for you to open up if you’re too down on yourself when it comes to love and you think that everything that comes out of your mouth with a new match is somehow wrong. You turn down dates, don’t text or call him, don’t suggest any fun activity or even seem to like him at all. But of course you do. You just know where it’s going. So you carve out your own little hermit world, like Anna.
Overcoming Loneliness: The Case of Anna Anna’s first reaction to the cell ringing was surprise. But that quickly dissolved into irritation after the first bbbring and once she got a look at her caller ID. Wrong number. And right in the middle of her rarely interrupted Friday night ritual. People can be so rude.
At this very moment, she thought, some woman was staring into a bathroom mirror carefully applying mascara while trying to dial her cell phone at the same time. Or, worse, some guy was drunken dialing his ex after one-too-many Guinnesses. And she got to reap the benefits? She waited for the phone to stop ringing, the caller to hang up without leaving a message and then went back to what she was doing. . . the same thing she’d done 100 Fridays before.
After getting home from her demanding job as a ER nurse, she’d pop a dinner of lasagna in the microwave. Then she’d curl up on her couch and scrolling through her Netflix menu wondering which one to watch first while eating dinner. Needless to say, she never even looked at her Bumble account. It had been eons since she was out on a date.
To learn more about overcoming your Hermit tendencies, check out the my best-selling dating book, Love in 90 Days.
Even when a Nobody’s Girl’s behavior is not about being a Hermit like Anna, or pushing guys away, there’s always an awful lot of critical self-talk. Take a look at this next scenario and see if you find yourself in it:
Overcoming Loneliness: The Case of Gina He probably won’t even show, Gina thought as she drove up to the restaurant to meet her date with an interesting guy from Tinder. He’d p..

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Overcoming Loneliness & The Nobody’s Girl Experience

Overcoming Loneliness & The Nobody’s Girl Experience

Overcoming Loneliness & The Nobody’s Girl Experience
Loneliness is in a pandemic of its own right now.
Perhaps you are feeling it even more than other women, if you had a less-than-great childhood in which you were not exactly welcomed, appreciated and nurtured in a consistent way. Your problematic upbringing then leads to you to experience yourself as a Nobody’s Girl. And when you feel loneliness, you can deeply feel it at your core. This blog is Part II of a three-part series on understanding and overcoming the Nobody’s Girl challenges you face.
I myself am a recovered Nobody’s Girl, married to the love of my life. I’m going to share how my transformation from loneliness to love took place so you can do it too. Let’s first start with understanding the dynamics and how those insights can lead to change. Next, we’ll talk about how coaching and mentoring can lift you out of the darkness.
RELATED POST: LONELY AND SINGLE?
Overcoming Loneliness: Understanding How Nobody’s Girl Dynamics Play Out in Your Life Depending on personality, a Nobody’s Girl can run hot or cold. If you are an extroverted, fiery type, who is used to being very successful in her career, you will tend to more of the elaborate performance art dedicated to manufacturing love, like our friend, Joy in our previous blog. You work overtime to make a guy love you.
Or on the other hand, you may become wild, hostile, rebellious, even abusive to a man who falls into your orbit to ‘test’ him and push him away. You watch yourself helplessly while you push all his buttons and get him to say exactly the wrong thing, the heartbreaking thing that will end it all. Meanwhile it feels impossible to be authentic or real with the guy. You’re too much of a hell child for him to handle anyway. Often you simply dump him first, before he can do it to you.
If you tend to be more introverted or shy, you may hold back in a relationship by doing less, or being quiet, shy or unavailable. It may be hard for you to open up if you’re too down on yourself when it comes to love and you think that everything that comes out of your mouth with a new match is somehow wrong. You turn down dates, don’t text or call him, don’t suggest any fun activity or even seem to like him at all. But of course you do. You just know where it’s going. So you carve out your own little hermit world, like Anna.
Overcoming Loneliness: The Case of Anna Anna’s first reaction to the cell ringing was surprise. But that quickly dissolved into irritation after the first bbbring and once she got a look at her caller ID. Wrong number. And right in the middle of her rarely interrupted Friday night ritual. People can be so rude.
At this very moment, she thought, some woman was staring into a bathroom mirror carefully applying mascara while trying to dial her cell phone at the same time. Or, worse, some guy was drunken dialing his ex after one-too-many Guinnesses. And she got to reap the benefits? She waited for the phone to stop ringing, the caller to hang up without leaving a message and then went back to what she was doing. . . the same thing she’d done 100 Fridays before.
After getting home from her demanding job as a ER nurse, she’d pop a dinner of lasagna in the microwave. Then she’d curl up on her couch and scrolling through her Netflix menu wondering which one to watch first while eating dinner. Needless to say, she never even looked at her Bumble account. It had been eons since she was out on a date.
To learn more about overcoming your Hermit tendencies, check out the my best-selling dating book, Love in 90 Days.
Even when a Nobody’s Girl’s behavior is not about being a Hermit like Anna, or pushing guys away, there’s always an awful lot of critical self-talk. Take a look at this next scenario and see if you find yourself in it:
Overcoming Loneliness: The Case of Gina He probably won’t even show, Gina thought as she drove up to the restaurant to meet her date with an interesting guy from Tinder. He’d p..

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Lonely & Single? Beating the Nobody’s Girl Blues!

Lonely & Single? Beating the Nobody’s Girl Blues!
Feeling lonely? So many single women are feeling that way during these very stressful and isolating times! Being single is real challenge right now, for sure. And it often leads to having what I call the Nobody’s Girl blues. I know all about it, because, as a result of my own lonely childhood, I grew up feeling like a Nobody’s Girl myself!
Nobody’s Girls are everywhere, especially now. You are not alone in facing these lonely times. There are many more Nobody’s Girls than you realize.
For example, there was Joy, a 40-something webmaster, who was brilliant and dedicated in her work. Perhaps too dedicated. Sitting alone in her apartment, with her chihuahua on her lap, she worked long hours into the night. She had gained 20 pounds and didn’t like looking at herself in the mirror. For this reason, she rarely dated.
That is, until she met Jason on Match. He was an IT guy, a nerd who understood her. Or so she thought. More on Joy and Jason later. First I want you to have an understanding of the Nobody’s Girl patterns, so that you can eventually overcome them and breakthrough to being connected, loved and feeling chosen.
The Lonely Nobody’s Girl – An Overview Have you ever felt completely drained at the end of what was almost a relationship? After a “relationship” that existed mostly in messages or texting and in your own imagination? Have you ever thought to yourself, love is just too hard–I don’t need all this bull*. I don’t need anyone…really.
This is the inner world of the Nobody’s Girl. As Shakespeare put it:
“I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow than a man swear he love me.”
Love is hard for everyone, but for the Nobody’s girl, it’s the hardest of all. Expressions of love can actually hurt. They are cruel reminders of what you secretly believe in you heart of hearts you can never have. You say you want a relationship, and plans a life with a man and you mean it. But saying one thing while believing another only gets you frustrated and unhappy. Love only happens when you truly believe it’s possible for you. And deep down you don’t.
And so you are a lone ranger used to riding solo.
The Lonely Nobody’s Girl Experience As a Nobody’s girl you feel different, not the same as all those well-adjusted smiling yoinks that are all over social media. They may look happy on their vacays with their hubbies and kids. But many of those women are actually Nobody’s Girls deep inside, like you. And they actually feel lonely and unhappy. And not loved for real. You will be surprised to discover, as you read on, that many Nobody’s Girls share common experiences. You may not have had them all, but you will find you’re familiar with most of them.
First of all, when a fling ends you are upset, but you’re certainly not surprised to find yourself alone. It’s all too familiar. And when we say alone, that doesn’t just mean distanced from any romantic interests, but also guarded with other people in general. It’s a habit, a knee-jerk reaction.
Lonely Nobody’s Girl – Self-Sabotaging Beliefs But if you looked underneath what you’d find is a belief: to be real about what you need or depend on someone else would make you feel vulnerable and, in your mind, put you at risk. Better to keep a stiff upper lip. Brace yourself for a fall then rely on someone to catch you. . . someone who might not be there in time or might not be strong enough. So when a friend or co-worker offers to help you move your office or lend an ear, you most likely turn them down. You appear strong; others see a competent tough woman. Meanwhile inside you feel like a scared or shy child who’s definitely on the outside looking in. The truth is your self-esteem and confidence lag far behind that strong veneer.
Lonely Nobody’s Girl – Few Real Friendships You probably have one or two friends that you text, call or ask to hang out. But otherwise you tend not to call people, to be proactive or reach out. Your phone book’s no..

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Lonely & Single? Beating the Nobody’s Girl Blues!

Lonely & Single? Beating the Nobody’s Girl Blues!

Lonely & Single? Beating the Nobody’s Girl Blues!
Feeling lonely? So many single women are feeling that way during these very stressful and isolating times! Being single is real challenge right now, for sure. And it often leads to having what I call the Nobody’s Girl blues. I know all about it, because, as a result of my own lonely childhood, I grew up feeling like a Nobody’s Girl myself!
Nobody’s Girls are everywhere, especially now. You are not alone in facing these lonely times. There are many more Nobody’s Girls than you realize.
For example, there was Joy, a 40-something webmaster, who was brilliant and dedicated in her work. Perhaps too dedicated. Sitting alone in her apartment, with her chihuahua on her lap, she worked long hours into the night. She had gained 20 pounds and didn’t like looking at herself in the mirror. For this reason, she rarely dated.
That is, until she met Jason on Match. He was an IT guy, a nerd who understood her. Or so she thought. More on Joy and Jason later. First I want you to have an understanding of the Nobody’s Girl patterns, so that you can eventually overcome them and breakthrough to being connected, loved and feeling chosen.
The Lonely Nobody’s Girl – An Overview Have you ever felt completely drained at the end of what was almost a relationship? After a “relationship” that existed mostly in messages or texting and in your own imagination? Have you ever thought to yourself, love is just too hard–I don’t need all this bull*. I don’t need anyone…really.
This is the inner world of the Nobody’s Girl. As Shakespeare put it:
“I had rather hear my dog bark at a crow than a man swear he love me.”
Love is hard for everyone, but for the Nobody’s girl, it’s the hardest of all. Expressions of love can actually hurt. They are cruel reminders of what you secretly believe in you heart of hearts you can never have. You say you want a relationship, and plans a life with a man and you mean it. But saying one thing while believing another only gets you frustrated and unhappy. Love only happens when you truly believe it’s possible for you. And deep down you don’t.
And so you are a lone ranger used to riding solo.
The Lonely Nobody’s Girl Experience As a Nobody’s girl you feel different, not the same as all those well-adjusted smiling yoinks that are all over social media. They may look happy on their vacays with their hubbies and kids. But many of those women are actually Nobody’s Girls deep inside, like you. And they actually feel lonely and unhappy. And not loved for real. You will be surprised to discover, as you read on, that many Nobody’s Girls share common experiences. You may not have had them all, but you will find you’re familiar with most of them.
First of all, when a fling ends you are upset, but you’re certainly not surprised to find yourself alone. It’s all too familiar. And when we say alone, that doesn’t just mean distanced from any romantic interests, but also guarded with other people in general. It’s a habit, a knee-jerk reaction.
Lonely Nobody’s Girl – Self-Sabotaging Beliefs But if you looked underneath what you’d find is a belief: to be real about what you need or depend on someone else would make you feel vulnerable and, in your mind, put you at risk. Better to keep a stiff upper lip. Brace yourself for a fall then rely on someone to catch you. . . someone who might not be there in time or might not be strong enough. So when a friend or co-worker offers to help you move your office or lend an ear, you most likely turn them down. You appear strong; others see a competent tough woman. Meanwhile inside you feel like a scared or shy child who’s definitely on the outside looking in. The truth is your self-esteem and confidence lag far behind that strong veneer.
Lonely Nobody’s Girl – Few Real Friendships You probably have one or two friends that you text, call or ask to hang out. But otherwise you tend not to call people, to be proactive or reach out. Your phone book’s no..

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Twin Flame Test: 20 Signs to Help You Know

Twin Flame Test: 20 Signs to Help You Know

Twin Flame Test: 20 Signs to Help You Know
Twin flames experience themselves as One, two halves of the same soul. The feeling of oneness is fantastic, a great bliss that makes everything in your life seem better. It is a love that is deeply spiritual, divinely blessed, meant to be, and fully alive on the emotional, physical, intellectual, sexual and psychic levels. Perhaps you have met someone and are wondering if this person is your twin flame. Here is a 20-item twin flame test that will quickly help you to decide.
How to Score: If you agree with the statement, give the relationship one point.
Twin Flame Test #1 You both feel like you have known each other forever. This can occur in your very first interaction!
RELATED POST: TWIN FLAME LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
Twin Flame Test #2 Both of you have this profound sense of coming home when you are with this person. You feel relaxed and like they are family.
Twin Flame Test #3 You both feel like you were born to love each other. There is a sense of destiny to the relationship.
Twin Flame Test #4 He or she completes you at the deepest level, makes you whole again in a way that no one else can. The relationship feels different than any other. Not out of neediness but that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
Twin Flame Test #5 You both feel a special bond that is more intense than any connection you have ever felt before. The relationship feels like the most important one of your life.
Twin Flame Test # 6 Both of you can be fully real and authentic. You can deeply feel your feelings and share even your most private thoughts.
Twin Flame Test # 7 Often you both have the same thoughts, reactions and feelings to things. Your partner may just come out and say exactly what you are thinking. A mind-meld, as it were.
Twin Flame Test # 8 There seems to be a psychic connection. You can sense your partner psychically—know what they are thinking, what they are feeling, or if they are having a problem.
Twin Flame Test #9 There are signs and synchronicities in your relationship. For example, one of our clients managed to message and engage her twin flame on Match.com, even after he deactivated his account!
Twin Flame Test #10 There is an overwhelming pull to be together, to be in each other’s presence, to be intimate, to be fully sexual. It is almost like a magnetic or gravitational attraction that is overpowering.
Twin Flame Test #11 Often both of you are focused on the other. You plan and dream for and with each other.
Twin Flame Test #12 Your partner often knows what you really need before you do. And he or she is happy to fill those needs. For example, he can tell if you need to eat before you realize it. And he delights in getting you a great meal.
Twin Flame Test #13 When you make love you can telepathically please each other. For example, you may be kissing and wanting to be stroked in a certain juicy area of your body, and without you saying anything, your partner does it perfectly!
Twin Flame Test #14 When you make love, lust and love commingle together and it is exquisite on every level. Which means that making love with your twin flame is light years away from having sex with anyone else, even if that other person is a hottie. And this strong chemistry does NOT diminish over time.
Twin Flame Test #15 You feel like you simply can’t live without your partner. You cannot imagine your life without them. And just thinking about losing your twin flame is painful to the point of being unbearable.
RELATED POST: CAN TWIN FLAMES FALL OUT OF LOVE?
Twin Flame Test #16 If you break up with your partner you feel like you want to die. Because this person is like the other half of you, when you lose them, you may get extremely depressed. Please note, if this is happening to you right now, definitely seek help. Have a free coaching session to help you deal with the situation.
Twin Flame Test #17 The bond you share is so powerful that it fuels commitment to work on the..

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Twin Flame Test: 20 Signs to Help You Know

Twin Flame Test: 20 Signs to Help You Know
Twin flames experience themselves as One, two halves of the same soul. The feeling of oneness is fantastic, a great bliss that makes everything in your life seem better. It is a love that is deeply spiritual, divinely blessed, meant to be, and fully alive on the emotional, physical, intellectual, sexual and psychic levels. Perhaps you have met someone and are wondering if this person is your twin flame. Here is a 20-item twin flame test that will quickly help you to decide.
How to Score: If you agree with the statement, give the relationship one point.
Twin Flame Test #1 You both feel like you have known each other forever. This can occur in your very first interaction!
RELATED POST: TWIN FLAME LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
Twin Flame Test #2 Both of you have this profound sense of coming home when you are with this person. You feel relaxed and like they are family.
Twin Flame Test #3 You both feel like you were born to love each other. There is a sense of destiny to the relationship.
Twin Flame Test #4 He or she completes you at the deepest level, makes you whole again in a way that no one else can. The relationship feels different than any other. Not out of neediness but that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.
Twin Flame Test #5 You both feel a special bond that is more intense than any connection you have ever felt before. The relationship feels like the most important one of your life.
Twin Flame Test # 6 Both of you can be fully real and authentic. You can deeply feel your feelings and share even your most private thoughts.
Twin Flame Test # 7 Often you both have the same thoughts, reactions and feelings to things. Your partner may just come out and say exactly what you are thinking. A mind-meld, as it were.
Twin Flame Test # 8 There seems to be a psychic connection. You can sense your partner psychically—know what they are thinking, what they are feeling, or if they are having a problem.
Twin Flame Test #9 There are signs and synchronicities in your relationship. For example, one of our clients managed to message and engage her twin flame on Match.com, even after he deactivated his account!
Twin Flame Test #10 There is an overwhelming pull to be together, to be in each other’s presence, to be intimate, to be fully sexual. It is almost like a magnetic or gravitational attraction that is overpowering.
Twin Flame Test #11 Often both of you are focused on the other. You plan and dream for and with each other.
Twin Flame Test #12 Your partner often knows what you really need before you do. And he or she is happy to fill those needs. For example, he can tell if you need to eat before you realize it. And he delights in getting you a great meal.
Twin Flame Test #13 When you make love you can telepathically please each other. For example, you may be kissing and wanting to be stroked in a certain juicy area of your body, and without you saying anything, your partner does it perfectly!
Twin Flame Test #14 When you make love, lust and love commingle together and it is exquisite on every level. Which means that making love with your twin flame is light years away from having sex with anyone else, even if that other person is a hottie. And this strong chemistry does NOT diminish over time.
Twin Flame Test #15 You feel like you simply can’t live without your partner. You cannot imagine your life without them. And just thinking about losing your twin flame is painful to the point of being unbearable.
RELATED POST: CAN TWIN FLAMES FALL OUT OF LOVE?
Twin Flame Test #16 If you break up with your partner you feel like you want to die. Because this person is like the other half of you, when you lose them, you may get extremely depressed. Please note, if this is happening to you right now, definitely seek help. Have a free coaching session to help you deal with the situation.
Twin Flame Test #17 The bond you share is so powerful that it fuels commitment to work on the..

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